For better or worse, being inauthentic is exhausting. Sooner or later we all get found out.
We’re born knowing who we are, but in so many cases we quickly learn to forget in order to conform, fit in and survive.
As we go through life, we remember in varying degrees at different stages but we often choose not to go there. Instead we choose to believe what we’ve been taught and take it as gospel on blind faith. It’s an easier option.
Or we have a really good grasp of who we are but we hide our authentic selves, hide out in order to feel safe. Once again, it can seem like the easier choice.
Some will wear masks and talk a good game when their aim is really manipulation. They’ve figured out how to work the system to get what they want.
But I have noticed that as people get older they tend to become more of who they truly are. For better or worse, being inauthentic is exhausting.
How do you heal and sooth the savage beast? With Love. How do you heal and sooth the dark parts and the recesses of the self? With Love. How do you heal and release hatred? With Love. How do you heal and release resentment? With Love. How do you forgive? By loving yourself enough to release the hate and resentment.
How do you become the best version of yourself? By meeting yourself exactly where you are and loving and accepting yourself exactly as you are. By deciding once and for all that you are worthy and deserving of love and loving yourself unconditionally. You will then begin to make different, more loving choices. Your interactions with others will start to come from that place of love inside of you. When you love yourself, really love yourself, you become free to love others without conditions.
And the World Becomes a Better Place Just by You Being In It.
Our Flaws Are Our Uniqueness and Often Times Our Genius
Earnest Hemmingway wrote, “The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”
I first heard this many years ago and it struck a very real chord with me. Over the course of my life since, I have found this truth at play in countless instances.
We see it in the gnarls of an old tree. Years of weather and the knocks it has sustained have shaped it, given it character, have made it stronger where it once was broken and it is all the more beautiful because of it. Its will to live has been relentless. It has survived. As human beings we are considered flawed with our imperfections but flaws, like beauty are subjective and in the eye of the beholder. Our flaws are our uniqueness and often times our genius. They make us who we are.
There are certain instances in which we don’t move forward with something or bring it to fruition because we feel it’s not perfect. Whatever it might be, we keep refining and revising, changing it around and mulling it over; which then devolves into procrastination and postponement and we don’t finish it because it never seems ‘perfect’. We second guess ourselves. We give up. What’s the use? It’s not perfect.
News Flash: Perfection is Subjective. Things are rarely ever truly perfect.
A paradigm shift is a fundamental change. It is a shift in consciousness, a shift in the understanding and belief of what is possible. It is the changes that subsequently manifest in our lives and in our reality from the shift in consciousness. We see things in a different light and our lives and our reality changes because of it.
We create and recreate ourselves many times throughout our lifetime, for better or for worse. From childhood to adulthood, to not change, to not make these big shifts is tantamount to stagnation and a sort of death. While, by the same token, making these shifts is also a sort of death, but a death that is liken to the Phoenix rising from the ashes. It is renewal. It is Transformation rather than Stagnation.
We’re born open; shiny and clean, clear and permeable. We’re curious about everything. It’s a big, beautiful and awe inspiring world we’re in and we’re set on touching, tasting, exploring and experiencing it all. But from the time we’re born we are bombarded with the energy, thoughts and opinions of others…first family, then friends, teachers and society at large…designed to keep us in line, tell us how to feel, what to think and how to behave. In short, make us conform.
Life is short in varying degrees and days and nights are finite. How do you want to spend yours?
We’re here for a blip; for a moment in time we walk this plane and all too soon it’s over...whether it’s a phase of life or an entire lifetime…it’s over. Life is too short to not live your truth. So much of our lives seem to be spent ‘just getting through it’. Whether it’s a job, a project or a given situation we’re faced with, we spend our lives just getting through it. We wake up on Monday morning and dread the day, the commute, the work we have to do while bound by the clock and people we have to ‘deal with’ in the process. We count down the minutes until Friday afternoon. If this is how our days and weeks are spent we are, in essence dreading our lives. Life is too short to just get through it.