Wake Up and Smell the Coma!
We’re born open; shiny and clean, clear and permeable. We’re curious about everything. It’s a big, beautiful and awe inspiring world we’re in and we’re set on touching, tasting, exploring and experiencing it all. But from the time we’re born we are bombarded with the energy, thoughts and opinions of others…first family, then friends, teachers and society at large…designed to keep us in line, tell us how to feel, what to think and how to behave. In short, make us conform.
Our family means well, of course. They’re simply trying to nurture us, keep us safe and teach us the things they think we need to know in order to survive and successfully navigate life. But often times this conditioning distracts us from thinking for ourselves, dampens our curiosities. All too often we are punished in some way for thinking, feeling or behaving ‘differently’. We quickly learn through both positive and negative reinforcement what acceptable behavior and unacceptable behavior look like. Recall the childhood game ‘Follow the Leader’ anyone? From birth we are taught to follow authority and do what we’re told.
We’re also taught to believe some really horrible things about ourselves. Whether verbalized or implied, few of us escape their insidiousness. Here are a few examples of the big lies we’re taught by those perceived authority figures: There’s something inherently wrong with you. You aren’t loveable. You aren’t smart enough. You aren’t pretty or handsome enough. You’re not talented enough. Why bother going for it because you’ll just fail. You don’t have it in you to be successful. Do what you’re told because we know what’s best for you. The list goes on and on.
We’re taught from an early age to believe there is something inherently wrong with us. After years of conditioning we begin believing the big lies we are told. We then start telling ourselves these same big lies. Limiting beliefs creep into our psyche osmosis style and become limiting belief systems. We ate the poison apple, washed it down with the Kool-Aid and fell into a societally induced Coma of Mediocrity designed to keep us in line, keep us dumb and keep us numb. This is not a new phenomenon; it’s done to nearly all of us as children, continues into adulthood and is passed down from generation to generation. It’s a kind of Stockholm Syndrome and assimilation into the status quo of our culture is not only our survival mechanism; at a young age it is also crucial for our survival.
But here’s the bottom line and the reality of things; There Is Nothing Inherently Wrong With Us. We Are Powerful Beyond Our Wildest Dreams. We have simply forgotten the Magnificence of our True Nature and what we are truly capable of.
We have been asleep.
What is our True Nature? We have the power to choose what we think. We have the gift of free thought, of critical thinking and the ability to question everything we have been taught and told. We have the power to think and decide for ourselves what is right for us and how we want to live our lives. We have the Power to Choose and we have the Power to Change. We have the power to create our reality. We have options available to us and we don’t have to create by default. We have the Universal Oneness coursing through our veins. We are a part of It and It is within us.
Action follows thought. When we think different thoughts, we do different things. Our belief systems change and our habits and patterns follow. We respond differently to situations. We begin to act rather than react. We create new and different situations and events and our lives subsequently change. We can remember and recapture the Magnificence of Our True Nature; who we really are.
Do we want something different, believe things can be different but still hear those critical voices in our heads that repeat those big lies telling us to stay in line, to conform, to believe what we’ve been told and behave a certain way? Do we continue to abide because we think that’s what good children do? Trying to live up to the expectations of others creates insecurity and self-loathing because we can never completely live up to those expectations. Trying to live up to the expectations others have mapped out for us keeps us from living our truth and realizing our true potential. It keeps us playing small and discourages us from thinking big.
Wake Up and Smell the Coma
Illustrate the Map of Your Life for Yourself!
Know who you are and what you want out of life! This may change with the different seasons of our lives or we may still have the same dreams we had as a young person. Where are you at this moment in time and where do you ultimately want to end up? What experiences to you want to have along the way? Revaluate to see if you’re on track or if you’ve perhaps veered from the path. Then determine what steps you need to take to get from Point A (where you are) to Point B (the life you want).
Question the Status Quo!
Don’t blindly believe the talking heads; think for yourself! These talking heads may be as close to you as your intimate circle or as broad and far reaching as the media or society in general. Figure out what’s meaningful and important to you and stop wasting your time (and your life) on empty, meaningless pursuits. A little junk food now and then won’t hurt you but junk food alone can’t sustain a healthy body. The same is true for what we feed our minds. Fill your mind with substance and think for yourself!
Refuse to Settle!
Stop living life just going through the motions! Don’t settle for less than you know you’re capable of. Let go of that which no longer serves you and free up room in your life for what’s important to you and pursue your passions. Dare to Dream! This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve got to go out and change the world or set it on fire; just do something to improve your little corner of it. Do something that makes you truly happy. It will improve your life and the lives of those around you.
Happiness is Contagious!
If we are happy and fulfilled human beings living our truth, we are better parents to our children, better children to our parents. We’re better spouses, better friends and better community members. If we are happy and fulfilled human beings living our truth, we contribute to our families, friends and society in more loving and meaningful ways and we make our little corner of the world a happier, more loving place. When we live our truth we, by example, give others permission to live their truth as well. We owe it to ourselves, our families and friends, our communities and the world at large to be the best version of ourselves we can be. What are you waiting for? Go For It!!